You may have anxiety that needs your attention and healing. But you are NOT anxiety.👊🏼
It’s important for me to share some thoughts on this during #mentalhealthawarenessmonth
As someone who has been diagnosed with moderate Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), I know first-hand the pain, discomfort and inconvenience that anxiety can have on everyday life.
To the point that …
👉🏼 I’ve felt that I wanted to crawl out of my skin.
👉🏼 I have felt trapped and stuck in my own mind.
👉🏼 I have become catatonic in the middle of the store.
OCD is one of the most misunderstood forms of anxiety. Most people think it’s about being super organized and perfectionists.
That’s where the loose saying “oh girl, I’m so OCD. I have to have my things organized in a certain way.” comes from.
I’m like, “girrrrrl believe me you don’t want the real OCD.” 😆
OCD is actually when a person gets caught in a cycle of obsessions (unwanted, intrusive thoughts, images or urges that trigger intensely distressing feelings), followed by compulsions (behaviors someone engages in to attempt to get rid of the obsessions and/or decrease the distress).
Essentially it’s like living in a loop of fear. A black hole of sorts.
📺 It’s hard to convey in a single post, but if you’re curious just go to YouTube and search “living with ocd”
When I first started my healing journey I read books to educate myself + started therapy specifically helpful for OCD, like exposure therapy and CBT.
Looking back, I started identifying as OCD.
I would say things like “I am OCD” or “I am anxiety girl.”
As if Vanessa = OCD.
I started blending who I was with the disorder itself.
🚫 NO! That is not okay nor is it helpful for healing and anxiety management.
For example: people who happen to have diabetes don’t go around saying “I am diabetes.”
We must separate ourselves from our “conditions/disorders.” Otherwise, we will inadvertently give it more power.
And for a while … that’s what I did.
I was working on it, yet feeding it. #soweird
It wasn’t until I started focusing on holistic healing (mind, body, spirit) that I started experiencing the bigger, deeper, lasting shifts. 💫
And it wasn’t until I separated it from MY identity that I weakened its grip, which allowed for the tools I had to actually help me better manage it.
When I was getting certified in various mindset modalities like NLP and hypnosis, I remember actually feeling mad that I wasn’t introduced to them sooner. Why weren’t more therapists talking about them and sharing them?
I remember feeling a little pissed that out of all the years of therapy not ONE mention of these healing modalities. My journey has proven that therapy is important, but mindset work is crucial.
They go hand-in-hand HANDS DOWN! So I was 🤯 🤯 🤯 looking at certain things in retrospect.
Anyway … I can talk about this all day.
But here’s the moral of the story:
✨ Healing work is multi-faceted.
✨ Change your language and relationship with the anxiety you happen to have.
✨ Because YOU are not anxiety (or trauma, depression, etc). Just like you are not your hair. 😬
YOU are powerful.
Don’t underestimate your strength. 💪🏼
I really hope this helped one person today!
And tell me … how are you showing anxiety who’s boss?👇🏼
Ready to work deeply on your mindset to FEEL amazing, gain clarity, get aligned and get out of your own way?
Check out my blog post on the Vicious Cycle of a Negative Mindset.
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