Anyone else ready for 2021?
Although this year has been a ride … I’m thankful for it.
It has reinforced so many lessons … while shining a spotlight in the areas us humans still has room for A LOT of growth.
What I know to be true is that all change starts with one. In order for society to change we must first look in the mirror.
As MJ sang:
I’m starting with the man in the mirror
I’m asking him to change his ways
And no message could have been any clearer
If you want to make the world a better place
Take a look at yourself, and then make a change
There are honestly TOO many lessons this year has provided us and reinforced.
So I’m going to stick to things you have more control over as an individual (that affects your inner/outer health) + your business.👏🏼
Too often, self-care is thought of to be things like bubble baths, getting massages or doing 10-minute meditations. Those are fine and dandy … but can sometimes stay on the superficial level. How are you more effective and deeply taking care of your HEALTH Trinity: mind, body and spirit. Self-care is not only about survival but about thriving and expanding.
Have your standards, while releasing expectations.
Standards = how you will conduct yourself + set of beliefs, values and traits you expect to see in an individual you date, hire, or have closer relationships with. Usually it’s more measurable.
Expectations = how you want people and situations to turn out, or how we want other people to behave. Usually it’s situational or fantasy-based.
Create healthy boundaries with yourself and external sources that are continually creating inner turmoil from constant expectations.
Appreciate the blessings, the challenges and the lessons.
Know that everyone is doing the best they can with the resources they currently have.
Whether that’s your purpose.
Your long-term goals
Or your next level goal.
It’s important to know what you really, really, REALLY want!
Otherwise you’re just drifting.
That drifting feeling makes us feel lost, hopeless, confused, stuck and keeps us in a weird cycle of sameness.
Clarity comes from both introspection, decision-making and action-taking.
And it’s key in moving in your RIGHT, authentic direction.
I’m a huge advocate of training, mentorship and masterminds.
As I’ve grown I’ve become less of an advocate for advice-seeing.
I think consultations and advice giving have their place — especially for brainstorming and seeking a 3rd party perspective. But when we rely on that too much it becomes a crutch.
Each time we trust someone else MORE than we trust ourselves we give away our power.
Read that again.
It’s a thin line.
And then we can spiral into fear, doubt and imposter syndrome.
Learn. Hire a coach. Take that course. Ask for advice here and there.
But trust yourself THE most.
Smart goals are great! I guide my client through them and we create their custom “North Star” Action Plan.
Behavioral flexibility is king.
We can make our plans, but always need to be ready to adjust our sails.
Otherwise, we’ll get stuck in perfectionism + analysis paralysis and never get to our next destination (or even worse, never leave the port!)
What lesson resonated with you most?
Tell me in the comments section below.